These words are either negative—or a dead giveaway that AI did your writing!

1. Drama

“No drama” immediately tells me you’ve probably had plenty of it. And it’s not attractive.

2. Baggage

Oh, I do not like this word. We all have life experience—and hopefully a little wisdom to show for it by now.

3. Narcissist

So overused. A relatively small percentage of people actually have narcissistic personality disorder. So maybe let’s stop diagnosing every ex we didn’t like.

4. Align

What? Surefire way I know ChatGPT or Grok wrote your profile. In everyday life, do you really say, “I’d like someone I align with”? Right.

5. Toxic

I almost jump when I see this word. It’s usually followed by a 20-minute story about an ex. Save it for chemicals.

6. Requirements

Yes, I actually see this online—and I immediately decline. You’re looking for a relationship, not hiring a CFO. There are much nicer ways to say what you’re looking for.

7. Soulmate

Whoa. Way too much pressure from a stranger. How about we get through lunch first?

8. Psycho/Crazy

That’s how you describe your ex? You either married this person or chose to be in a relationship with them…so I’m not quite sure what that says about you.

9. Need

Even “I don’t want anyone needy” tells me there’s a story behind it. No need to advertise it!

10. Just“

Just looking to see what’s out there.” Automatic no, thank you. Either you’re dating or you’re browsing. Pick one.

And one bonus: “I can’t believe I’m doing this.”

Meaning online dating? Well, you are. Own it. It’s 2026, and online dating is an excellent way to meet people—when you do it right.

“Your dating profile should make someone want to meet you—not wonder who hurt you.”

xx, Andrea McGinty (Yep, written by me, no AI involved)

Founder, 33000Dates.com and Founder, It’s Just Lunch