Because AI has never fallen in love The future of dating isn't AI versus humans. It's AI plus humans—if you know where each belongs. I think there's my position is quite a but different from everyone else. Almost everyone in my industry is screaming, "AI is terrible!" or "AI is replacing matchmakers!" My take? "I've embraced AI. I just refuse to let it replace humanity." That's a much stronger argument because I’ve had front row seats at the last 35 years of dating----yes, s

nope, not this week ): Yep, this is my week :) Most singles have already lost the dating week before Monday arrives. They're replaying Saturday night's disappointing date. Wondering why he never texted. Convinced all the good ones are gone. Thinking about deleting the apps...again. By Sunday evening, they've already talked themselves out of believing next week will be any different. But successful dating doesn't begin when someone asks you out. It begins with the minds

Sunday nights are responsible for some truly questionable choices. ❌ "I'm deleting all the apps." ❌ "Maybe I'll text my ex." ❌ "All the good ones are taken." None of those thoughts are true. They're just what disappointment sounds like after 8:00 p.m. Instead... Smile. Laugh about the date who talked about himself for 90 minutes. Celebrate the person who looked ten years older than their photos because...well...at least you'll never have to see them again. Then remember this:

5 Weird Truths Nobody Tells You About Online Dating I've learned something after watching 33,000 first dates unfold over 30+ years: online dating has the logic of airport security, Costco on a Saturday, and your GPS when it suddenly says, "Recalculating." It doesn't always make sense—but once you understand its quirks, everything gets easier. 1. Your Future Partner Is Probably Sitting in Your "No" Pile. After 33,000 first dates, I've learned one thing the hard way: Peop

Offer ends Sunday! I've learned something after watching 33,000 first dates unfold over 30+ years: online dating has the logic of airport security, Costco on a Saturday, and your GPS when it suddenly says, "Recalculating." It doesn't always make sense—but once you understand its quirks, everything gets easier. 1. Your Future Partner Is Probably Sitting in Your "No" Pile. After 33,000 first dates, I've learned one thing the hard way: People are remarkably bad at predicting att

Over the last 30 years, people have asked me thousands of times... "Andrea, what's the secret?" The secret to finding love. The secret to choosing the right person. The secret to making dating less frustrating. After coaching more than 33,000 first dates and helping create over 10,000 marriages and long-term relationships, I've realized something surprising. It's not one big secret. It's a handful of simple truths that almost everyone overlooks. Here are six of the biggest. 1

Newsflash: You're probably not bad at online dating. You're just using a strategy that stopped working three apps ago. If you're ready to spend less time swiping and more time actually meeting great people, these seven tips are your new playbook. 1. Stop trying to be everyone's type. Be someone's favorite. The more you try to appeal to everyone, the more forgettable you become. Your quirks aren't flaws—they're your built-in filtering system. The right person isn't looking for

I could fill a book with these. After more than 30 years as a dating strategist, matchmaker, and dating coach, I've heard just about everything. And yet, people still manage to surprise me. There are still moments when my eyes get wide, my jaw practically hits my desk, and I think, "Wait... you actually said that on a first date?" So, I narrowed it down to just five. The real question is... do you recognize yourself in any of them? 1. Talking About Yourself for 80% of the Dat

In Honor of America's 250th Birthday One of the biggest myths in modern dating is that there are only a handful of places to meet quality people. Not true. Over 30 years—and more than 33,000 first dates—I've watched relationships begin in grocery stores, airports, hospitals, networking events, dog parks, charity galas, hotel lobbies, and yes...occasionally even at the DMV. In honor of America's 250th birthday, I challenged myself to list 250 places where people have actually

Ok, stay with me---in a minute this will all make sense... How my husband laughed a few weeks ago ever since my excitement dominated our home over World Cup. But, then again, he didn’t watch Ted Lasso. Low and behold, he is now as enamored as I am. (though he called the “Pitch” a “Field"). Rookie mistake. BTW, those of you who know me and doubt online dating, that is where I met Jeff. (Oh while I am at it, one marriage and 3 engagements thus far in June---and people qu

Today is the Summer Solstice (and my sister Joanne's birthday---Happy B-day Jo!)---the longest day of the year. Thus sun is literally giving us extra daylight. The sun is doing it's part today. The rest is on you. You could spend it reorganizing your closet, scrolling online, watching strangers renovate kitchens on HGTV and telling your friends there are "no good men/women left"/ OR.... You can use a few of those bonus hours to put yourself where other humans are...and win

Before we get started, I was so excited last night when I got a text…where I promptly called my client Alicia (age 57—from Boston) back. Yes, she got engaged to Daniel---I remember picking him out for her and how much fun they had on their first date. I’m so happy. Why I do this! I’m expecting a wedding invite and BTW it was Alicia’s 14th Match.com date! Alicia and Daniel, Congratulations! OK, back to those dating mistakes….. (Spoiler: Your MBA Isn't Helping Your Bumbl

Yes, this is about dating. Stay with me. Every four years, the world loses its mind over the World Cup. I know about as much about soccer as I know about rebuilding a transmission. . Disclosure and Explanation: But watching the World Cup last night USA vs Paraguay? Wow. The energy was contagious. The crowd was electric. The patriotism was off the charts. \After five minutes, even I was yelling at the television like I'd been following soccer my entire life. We won. 4-1. A

1. The Biggest Red Flag in Dating Might Be You Not because you're a bad person.Because self-awareness is rare and most people think they're the exception. Everybody has a list of red flags. Almost nobody has a list of their own. 2. Why Smart People Make Terrible Dating Decisions The more intelligent someone is, the better they become at explaining away obvious problems. Intelligence doesn't protect you from bad choices. It helps you justify them. 3. Your Type Is Probably

Before I get started, I laughed this morning with a client over this. She reading a man's profile where he just wrote 5 adjectives describing himself. That's it. Nothing else. But had 8 great photos. BTW, this client is very funny too. She responded with "You just got a 5 star review from me". Anyway, they have a date with coffee and a walk through Central Park next week. Now, for the real topic: So yesterday morning, Matt, a 58 year old client of mine, sent me th

So every morning, I read The Wall Street Journal and scroll through my 1440 newsletter — because nothing says "good morning" like coffee, headlines and a weirdly perfect dating analogy. And I came across this headline last week: A man jumped out of a plane… free-falling through the sky… and solved a Rubik’s Cube in 23 seconds before his parachute deployed. Excuse me? and you think dating is hard? Meanwhile, half the singles I talk to are emotionally exhausted because someone

Happy Mother’s Day first!!! Here’s a little love-life accounting for the summer ahead. Why am I writing this? Last week I spoke with 3 people (non-clients—two are now new clients) In 2025: Cara,63, Told me she spend $3156 on Dating last year with Zero results Thomas, a good looking doctor age 67, spent over $5,000 Michael, age 58, accomplished architect won the contest at over $7,000 ugh, ick, Lots of $$$ Me: WHAT??? What are you doing? Who is giving you advice? Ba

By Andrea McGinty Founder, It’s Just Lunch & 33000Dates.com 33,000+ Dates Curated | 10,000+ Marriages | 65% Success Rate | Dating Strategist #1 Dating Expert and Dating Coach according to Oprah | Spring/Summer dating season has arrived. The birds are flirting. The patios are open. The apps are buzzing. And singles everywhere are staring into the digital abyss asking the same question UFO researchers have asked for decades: Is there intelligent life out there? After 30+ years

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By Andrea McGinty Founder, It’s Just Lunch & 33000Dates.com 33,000+ Dates Curated | 10,000+ Marriages | 65% Success Rate | | #1 Dating Expert and Dating Coach according to Oprah | Spring dating season has arrived. The birds are flirting. The patios are open. The apps are buzzing. And singles everywhere are staring into the digital abyss asking the same question UFO researchers have asked for decades: Is there intelligent life out there? After 30+ years in dating, I can confir