Maybe you're shopping in the wrong aisle? I have a theory about dating: we’re all shopping at Costco. Hear me out. You walk into Costco looking for one thing. Maybe it’s a rotisserie chicken. You know exactly what you want. Then you see the giant display of something you never knew you needed. Into the cart it goes. Twenty minutes later, you’re walking out with a kayak, a 12-pack of socks, three pounds of cheese—and absolutely no chicken. Dating can be exactly the same. We ma

These words are either negative—or a dead giveaway that AI did your writing! 1. Drama “No drama” immediately tells me you’ve probably had plenty of it. And it’s not attractive. 2. Baggage Oh, I do not like this word. We all have life experience—and hopefully a little wisdom to show for it by now. 3. Narcissist So overused. A relatively small percentage of people actually have narcissistic personality disorder. So maybe let’s stop diagnosing every ex we didn’t like. 4. Align W

OK, enough bad dates! Agree? Enough ridiculous checklists. Enough waiting for "the one" to magically appear. Let's get strategic about your love life. Book a call with me at 33000Dates.com xx, Andrea McGinty Founder, 33000Dates.com and Founder, It's Just Lunch Featured on Oprah, People, Today, Bloomberg, CNN, Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Harvard Crimson and lots more

You don't have to love online dating. But you do have to stop believing things about it that simply aren't true. The 5 Myths Myth 1: Online dating is for desperate people. Please. The stigma should have been retired with your fax machine. It's simply another way to meet people---and a very efficient one. Myth 2: Everyone over 50 has too much baggage. Baggage? I call it life experience. By 50, you've loved, lost, raised families, built careers, travelled, made mistakes

Mike (63) and Lisa (64) Colorado on 9/2/26----Exciting! I spend a lot of time with successful people. CEOs. Entrepreneurs. Doctors. Lawyers. Investors. People who run companies, manage teams, negotiate deals, make difficult decisions and build lives most people would consider pretty darn successful. And then I watch how some of them date. I’ve had a front-row seat for more than 30 years—33,000 first dates, 10,000-plus marriages and relationships, plenty of great love stories…

I love September. Not because I’m ready for pumpkin spice anything. I’m not. (Though I did eat a pumpkin donut this morning!) I love September because dating wakes up. Summer is basically over. Everyone is back from wherever they went. Vacations wind down. Routines return. Dinner plans get made. Invitations start coming in. Calendars fill up. September has a way of getting life moving again. And dating? Dating wakes up. And suddenly, single people everywhere have the same re

Yesterday, a woman who is not a client sent me the nicest note thanking me for my newsletter and the dating advice in it. And at the very bottom of her email was this quote she must like: “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” — Leo Tolstoy I read it and thought: Well, Leo, welcome to online dating. Because after 33,000 first dates, I can tell you—singles spend an enormous amount of time talking about what everybody else needs to chang

If You’re Single, September Changes Everything Forget January. Dating Season Starts Now. My clients are coming back. They’re coming home from walking the Camino de Santiago in Spain. From hiking and lake weekends in the Adirondacks. From sailing around the Greek islands, eating their way through Sicily, disappearing to Costa Rica, touring Japan, and spending two glorious weeks pretending they might actually move to Provence. Others went a little less exotic: Cape Cod. Colorad

Bad dates make great stories. But wouldn't you rather have a great date? Follow me @33000Dates on Instagram I've got a few things to say after 30+ years, over 33,000 first dates and 10,000+ marriages. See you over there... Andrea ❤️ @33000dates

Because AI has never fallen in love The future of dating isn't AI versus humans. It's AI plus humans—if you know where each belongs. I think there's my position is quite a but different from everyone else. Almost everyone in my industry is screaming, "AI is terrible!" or "AI is replacing matchmakers!" My take? "I've embraced AI. I just refuse to let it replace humanity." That's a much stronger argument because I’ve had front row seats at the last 35 years of dating----yes, s

nope, not this week ): Yep, this is my week :) Most singles have already lost the dating week before Monday arrives. They're replaying Saturday night's disappointing date. Wondering why he never texted. Convinced all the good ones are gone. Thinking about deleting the apps...again. By Sunday evening, they've already talked themselves out of believing next week will be any different. But successful dating doesn't begin when someone asks you out. It begins with the minds

Sunday nights are responsible for some truly questionable choices. ❌ "I'm deleting all the apps." ❌ "Maybe I'll text my ex." ❌ "All the good ones are taken." None of those thoughts are true. They're just what disappointment sounds like after 8:00 p.m. Instead... Smile. Laugh about the date who talked about himself for 90 minutes. Celebrate the person who looked ten years older than their photos because...well...at least you'll never have to see them again. Then remember this:

5 Weird Truths Nobody Tells You About Online Dating I've learned something after watching 33,000 first dates unfold over 30+ years: online dating has the logic of airport security, Costco on a Saturday, and your GPS when it suddenly says, "Recalculating." It doesn't always make sense—but once you understand its quirks, everything gets easier. 1. Your Future Partner Is Probably Sitting in Your "No" Pile. After 33,000 first dates, I've learned one thing the hard way: Peop

Offer ends Sunday! I've learned something after watching 33,000 first dates unfold over 30+ years: online dating has the logic of airport security, Costco on a Saturday, and your GPS when it suddenly says, "Recalculating." It doesn't always make sense—but once you understand its quirks, everything gets easier. 1. Your Future Partner Is Probably Sitting in Your "No" Pile. After 33,000 first dates, I've learned one thing the hard way: People are remarkably bad at predicting att

Over the last 30 years, people have asked me thousands of times... "Andrea, what's the secret?" The secret to finding love. The secret to choosing the right person. The secret to making dating less frustrating. After coaching more than 33,000 first dates and helping create over 10,000 marriages and long-term relationships, I've realized something surprising. It's not one big secret. It's a handful of simple truths that almost everyone overlooks. Here are six of the biggest. 1

Newsflash: You're probably not bad at online dating. You're just using a strategy that stopped working three apps ago. If you're ready to spend less time swiping and more time actually meeting great people, these seven tips are your new playbook. 1. Stop trying to be everyone's type. Be someone's favorite. The more you try to appeal to everyone, the more forgettable you become. Your quirks aren't flaws—they're your built-in filtering system. The right person isn't looking for

I could fill a book with these. After more than 30 years as a dating strategist, matchmaker, and dating coach, I've heard just about everything. And yet, people still manage to surprise me. There are still moments when my eyes get wide, my jaw practically hits my desk, and I think, "Wait... you actually said that on a first date?" So, I narrowed it down to just five. The real question is... do you recognize yourself in any of them? 1. Talking About Yourself for 80% of the Dat

In Honor of America's 250th Birthday One of the biggest myths in modern dating is that there are only a handful of places to meet quality people. Not true. Over 30 years—and more than 33,000 first dates—I've watched relationships begin in grocery stores, airports, hospitals, networking events, dog parks, charity galas, hotel lobbies, and yes...occasionally even at the DMV. In honor of America's 250th birthday, I challenged myself to list 250 places where people have actually

Ok, stay with me---in a minute this will all make sense... How my husband laughed a few weeks ago ever since my excitement dominated our home over World Cup. But, then again, he didn’t watch Ted Lasso. Low and behold, he is now as enamored as I am. (though he called the “Pitch” a “Field"). Rookie mistake. BTW, those of you who know me and doubt online dating, that is where I met Jeff. (Oh while I am at it, one marriage and 3 engagements thus far in June---and people qu

Today is the Summer Solstice (and my sister Joanne's birthday---Happy B-day Jo!)---the longest day of the year. Thus sun is literally giving us extra daylight. The sun is doing it's part today. The rest is on you. You could spend it reorganizing your closet, scrolling online, watching strangers renovate kitchens on HGTV and telling your friends there are "no good men/women left"/ OR.... You can use a few of those bonus hours to put yourself where other humans are...and win