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5 mistakes: Giving up on online dating

Are you ready to throw in the towel? Feeling frustrated and discouraged?

Well, hold your horses because there's a little something you might have missed. Studies have shown that most people give up on online dating after just two attempts.

But let me ask you this, did you quit golf after two lessons? Did you toss out your tennis racquet? I didn't think so!

Now, I've been in the dating game for over 25 years, helping people navigate the treacherous waters of love. I'll even do six coaching calls with you. But let me tell you, it's not all rainbows and unicorns, my friend. Far from it!

During my second coaching call, it usually goes a little something like this:

Me (all enthusiastic): So, how's it going, Lara?

Lara (depressed): You know, Andrea, I hate this. I've looked at all the men and they're all awful. I think you're great, but this just isn't for me. The men who like me are atrocious. I'd rather be single forever.

Full stop. I listen. And let me tell you, it's the same old story every time.

I work with some pretty smart people, but let's face it, online dating is an art and a science. It works if you know what you're doing. That's why people like me exist! Sometimes, I think people expect magic. They think the first person they see online will be "the one." Well, sorry to burst your bubble, but that's not how it works.

That's why I've become a pro at using algorithms and search engines on the top dating sites and apps. I immediately weed out 90-95% of the candidates, leaving only the ones my clients are actually looking for.

Now, obviously, I have a secret sauce that I've perfected over the years through my success in matchmaking and online dating. But sorry, my friend, that's not free. You've got to pay for that kind of expertise!

So, here are the five mistakes I see people making. Brace yourself, because things are about to get interesting:

1. You give up. You sign up, take a quick look, and decide it's not for you.

2. You listen to horror stories from your negative friends.

3. You choose the wrong dating app or site.

4. You have no clue what you're doing, and it's overwhelming.

5. You don't have an expert helping you.

Here we go with Lara on coaching call 3: (this week, just one week later!)

Lara (cheerful—-Thank God!): Andrea, I found 3 guys that I really like. One I spoke to and we are meeting for a drink on Saturday afternoon. Ok, this guy Matt is awesome but I’m not sure what to say back to him. Can you help me write a message?

Me (relieved and happy): of course. Let me take a look. Ok, here’s our message “Hey, Matt—-thanks for the like. I cracked up at your dad Swiftie shirt with your daughter at the Taylor Swift concert—-so cute! I bet that was your idea, right? Lol. Ok, I’m definitely interested (am a big tennis player too)—how about a coffee on Saturday at Sweet Eats? Lara

Lara: Perfect. Sent.

40 minutes later Matt responds while we are still on the call with “Sounds great. Does 11 am work for you? My cell is xxxx”

Lara (name changed; she is a real client) is happy. So, now I’m happy too.

How often does this happen? I’d say twice a day.

Nope, I’m not magical. I just know how to work the system.

Want help? Sign up online for a free 15-minute chat with me. If I can help, I’ll take you as a client. If I can’t, I’ll tell you that too—-or refer you. My success to someone who may be a better fit. My success rate is over 65% (meaning people dating someone they really like, in a serious relationship, etc.). And that means the world to me!

Wishing you an awesome weekend and fun dates,

Andrea McGinty

702-494-7344 (I’m on the East Coast)

#Online Dating expert, #online profile writer, #relationship expert and helping you navigate all aspects of online dating from writing your dating profile, vetting your photos, choosing the right date site or dating app, and helping you write intriguing messages that get dates!

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