Dating after 50 comes with its fair share of “advice”—most of it outdated, unhelpful, and downright wrong. The truth? These myths are stopping smart, vibrant singles from finding love.

So let’s bury them once and for all. I’ve brought along two of my clients—Jack, 51, and Paul, 68—both of whom found lasting love online (with my coaching, of course). Together, we’re busting the five biggest myths keeping daters stuck.

1. Myth: “Online dating is just for the young crowd.”

Jack (51):“I thought dating apps were all 20-somethings doing TikTok dances. Instead, I met incredible women in their 40s and 50s—smart, funny, and actually looking for real connection.”

Paul (68):“My kids laughed when I said I was trying online dating. Now I’m in a relationship and sipping wine in Tuscany. They’re not laughing anymore.”

Me: One in three marriages for people over 40 now start online. Translation: online dating isn’t “for the kids” anymore. It’s for grown-ups who know what they want.

2. Myth: “Everyone online is a scammer or catfish.”

Jack (51):“Sure, I got a weird message or two. Delete, block, move on. But most people were just like me—normal, busy, and not looking to hang out in bars at midnight.”

Paul (68):“Someone once asked me for gift cards. I laughed. Then I met someone real, over coffee… and now we’re walking her dog together three years later.”

Me: Scammers exist, but so do bad drivers—and you still drive. With the right filters, photos, and guidance, 99% of the noise disappears.

3. Myth: “At our age, all the good ones are taken.”

Jack (51):“Wrong. Some of the most amazing women I met were divorced or widowed and ready for a fresh start. Honestly, dating in my 50s feels smarter than dating in my 20s.”

Paul (68):“My girlfriend was widowed, I was divorced. We both thought our shot had passed. Turns out, we were both wrong—and very happily so.”

Me: There are 20+ million single people over 50 in the U.S. alone. Scarcity is a mindset, not a reality.

4. Myth: “First dates are always awkward.”

Jack (51):“My first date with the woman I’m now seeing? Axe throwing. Nothing awkward about laughing your head off while flinging sharp objects.”

Paul (68):“Our ‘quick coffee’ turned into a three-hour walk. It felt effortless, not awkward.”

Me: The cure for awkward? Fun. If you’re laughing, you’re connecting—and let’s face it, you’ve survived worse than a clunky hello.

5. Myth: “If it doesn’t happen fast, it’s not going to happen.”

Jack (51):“I went on six dates before I met her. Six. Not 600. If I’d quit early, I’d still be single and cranky.”

Paul (68):“It took me four months, and it was worth every week. Love isn’t Amazon Prime—it doesn’t show up overnight.”

Me: Dating is a marathon, not a sprint. One right person cancels out fifty wrong ones.

Bottom Line

These myths don’t just waste your time—they sabotage your love life before it even starts. Jack and Paul are proof that love after 50 isn’t just possible—it’s thriving.

So, the next time you hear “You’re too old for online dating” or “Everyone’s a scammer,” smile, roll your eyes, and move on. Because love in 2025 belongs to the bold, the cheeky, and the ones willing to show up with a plan.

 Forget the myths. Find the magic.

But have a strategy. Take a business like approach. Give it 3 months. Sign up with me for the most effective and efficient way to meet. Because I know what I am doing. 30 years. Over 33000 Dates set up. More than 10,000 marriages.

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xo, Andrea