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This is a celebration of the impact of actions and attitude over physical appearance.
Don’t get me wrong. You need to take care of yourself and look as good as possible — for you more than anyone else. Also, for your health.
I’m always amazed when I’m working with a client online and we are scrolling through potential matches about the differences in looks. Yesterday I was working with a 59-year-old woman who was interested in men 55-65. Some of the men in this age group looked 50. Others looked 70. I’m certain much was about how they took care of their body and health.
People respond to appearance. It’s reality. Especially online.
But we can have a lot of influence on our success with online dating by changing our perspective.
Here’s what I mean:
1. Have self-respect and self-worth
How? Make sure dignity and self-respect are in your top five priorities.
2. Make the first move.
Why hesitate any longer? This exudes confidence. Yes, it is normal to be a bit reticent and wait to see what others do before taking a step.
Success online in dating is tied to self-assured, initial and take-charge action.
Don’t be afraid to make the first move. You won’t have 100% of the information yet, but trust your gut and take a chance.
3. Be super upbeat, but not fake
Who can resist this?
4. Give surprise compliments.
No, I’m not talking phony here. A sincere compliment goes a long way. Whether it’s on your first date---or the initial message you send a potential online date, it resonates with both men and women. Look at their photos. It could be as simple as “I loved the photo of you and your daughter on her wedding day—you both look so happy”.
5. Be curious, not nosy. People like to be asked about themselves and it shows genuine interest on your end.
6. It’s not all about you
As in, the world doesn’t revolve around you.
Your past happened. Let go. The greatest relief for you will come in realizing that no one really gives a darn about this, unless you make it an issue.
Remember what I always say about the word baggage? We don’t have baggage; we have life experience. Bad marriage? Tough divorce? This is so not appropriate for the first few dates.
7. Just go for it.
Exactly what are you waiting for? I’m astonished when people call me and tell me they will be ready to date in May or November. Time is a-wasting, let these precious moments count and just get going. There is never a “perfect” time to date. Take action now.
Just give it a try. What have you to lose but your single life?
Can I help you? Maybe. If you are looking for a serious relationship or to just get back out into dating again, perhaps. That's why I do a 15-minute call with you. Register here: It's complementary.
Warmly,
Andrea McGinty Dating Coach/Dating Expert 33000Dates.com