Congratulations. You're The Problem. With Dating.

1. The Biggest Red Flag in Dating Might Be You

Not because you're a bad person.Because self-awareness is rare and most people think they're the exception.

Everybody has a list of red flags. Almost nobody has a list of their own.

2. Why Smart People Make Terrible Dating Decisions

The more intelligent someone is, the better they become at explaining away obvious problems.

Intelligence doesn't protect you from bad choices. It helps you justify them.

3. Your Type Is Probably the Reason You're Single

Thirty years.

Same type.

Same outcome.

Maybe the problem isn't the dating pool.

Your picker is broken.

4. Stop Looking for Chemistry

This one will drive people crazy.

Some of the best marriages I've seen started with:"I wasn't sure at first."

Chemistry can be a spark. It can also be a warning sign.

5. Why Successful Women Get Terrible Dating Advice

Everyone tells them to "play smaller," "be less intimidating," or "let him lead."  Nonsense.

You know what?  I do not even understand what that sentence above means and I wrote it.

The issue usually isn't success.

It's how success shows up in the room.

Confidence attracts. Performance repels.

6. The Person Who Ghosted You Probably Did You a Favor

Harsh?

Maybe.

But if someone disappears after two dates, they just gave you valuable information for free.

Rejection is information, not punishment.

7. Most People Don't Want Love. They Want Certainty.

They want guarantees.

No risk.

No disappointment.

Unfortunately, that's not how love works.

You're not dating. You're trying to eliminate uncertainty.

8. Why Your Friends Are Keeping You Single

This one has me written all over it.   I cannot stress this one enough.

I’ve been hearing the same BS for 35 years.

Most friends mean well.

But most friends:

• project their own fears

• repeat outdated advice

• have no idea what it's like to date today

The blind leading the blind isn't a dating strategy.

9. Nobody gets everything. The happiest people know that.

That list of 10 must haves you present to me.  Take numbers 4-10 and put a big X.

10. The Real Problem With Modern Dating Isn't Men or Women

Everyone wants to blame a gender.

The real culprit?

Entitlement.

Both sides think they're shopping.

Very few are asking:"Would a great partner choose me?"

The market isn't broken. Expectations are.

Ok, so what do you do???

1.       Work with me.  I know what I’m doing.

2.      Buy my book.  Fill out every worksheet.

Click either one above…or both.

Agree or Disagree? 

Drop a comment.  

 Just remember:  I have been having these conversations since before Google, dating apps, and social media existed.    I’ve developed a pretty thick skin…and a healthy appreciation for spirited debate!

XX,

Andrea

Dating isn’t luck.  It’s strategy.

10,000 Marriages |  65% success rate  |   Founder, It’s Just Lunch  (110 global locations before I sold it to private equity | Founder, 33000Dates.com | I just love what I do! |Over 30+ years experience