🎯 Dating Isn’t Luck—It’s Strategy ❤️

After 10,000+ marriages, I know the shortcut to love. 💡

1. Get Crystal Clear on What You Want

Think you know your type? Most people do—until I ask them to spell it out. Then I get, “Someone kind, funny, tall.” Cute, but not nearly specific enough.

Action Step:

• Write two lists: Must-Haves vs. Nice-to-Haves

• Define the values and lifestyle you want to share

• Get real about dealbreakers

Why it matters: Clarity is the ultimate time-saver—it helps you skip mismatches and focus on the right connections.

2. Be Honest About What You Want (No “Woke” Answers, Please)

Let’s skip the politically correct pageant answers, shall we? Why? Because I’ve been doing this for decades, and I can’t tell you how many first conversations start with, “Andrea, I’m open to every ethnicity, every religion…”

Do I believe that? Maybe in 1% of the population. It’s lovely to think you’re equally attracted to everyone—but you’re not. And that’s okay.

Here’s what happens when I push: “Are you more attracted to Black, white, purple, polka-dot?” Suddenly, I get an answer. Every time. And no, there’s no wrong answer—it’s just human. We all have types. They may evolve, they may surprise us, but pretending we don’t have preferences? That’s dating with one hand tied behind your back.

3. Upgrade Your Dating Profile (With Expert Help)

Your profile is your digital handshake—and a limp handshake won’t get you far. If yours is bland, rushed, or a sea of clichés, you’re probably repelling the people you want to attract.

Quick Fixes:

• Use 5–6 high-quality, varied photos (think warmth, not mugshot)

• Write a bio that’s confident, honest, and upbeat

• Replace tired lines like “love to laugh” with actual personality

Working with a dating coach means you’ll get honest, strategic feedback and a proven profile format that gets results—fast.

4. Do the Inner Work (Or Keep Repeating Old Patterns)

Finding a partner is one thing. Being ready for one? Whole different story. If you keep attracting the wrong types or dating fizzles after round three, it might be your patterns—not your luck.

Many people take my dating quiz.  If you answered one of my questions with “I attract the wrong people”, guess what?   It’s not the dating app or site…it’s you.  Let’s figure this out together.  (One of my favorite things to do!!)

Ask Yourself:

• “Why do I keep attracting the same type?”

• “Why do I lose momentum so quickly?”

• “Why do I feel like I’m dating on repeat?”

The truth: Without awareness, we recreate what’s familiar—even if it’s not good for us. Coaching helps break cycles, boost resilience, and prepare you for the relationship you actually want.

5. Learn the Psychology of Attraction

Chemistry isn’t magic—it’s science. Flirting is a skill. Confidence is magnetic. And yes, the “friend zone” can be avoided.

Oh, wow.  I have a client in California—she’s pretty, funny, and happy.  And a successful business woman.  Her messages to men online seemed like corporate emails.  Yep, I taught her how to lighten it up and flirt.  It’s working.  Yay!

Fast Attraction Tips:

• Keep open body language and steady eye contact

• Mirror their energy for instant rapport

• Ask thoughtful, curious questions to deepen connection

I teach clients how to be magnetic without losing authenticity—and the results speak for themselves.

6. Get Real Feedback from a Professional

Your friends mean well, but they aren’t trained to spot dating blind spots. You might be coming off passive, guarded, or even uninterested—and not know it.

Why Coaching Works:

• Customized strategies just for you

• Actionable feedback you can use immediately

• Accountability so you don’t slide back into old habits

Many clients see a noticeable shift in dating success within weeks. One told me, “I wish I’d started sooner—this changed everything.”

7. Create Momentum (and Stop Overthinking)

Love isn’t a happy accident—it’s the result of consistent effort and smart choices. The sooner you start, the sooner you’ll see results.

Pro Tip: Book your first coaching session now. You’ll walk away with a clear plan, a confident mindset, and the tools to meet quality people. Love isn’t hiding—it just needs the right strategy to find you.

I am strategic  (those of you who have my new 2025 bestseller: 2^nd Acts: Winning Strategies for Dating over 50 know this.)   You just cannot leave it to “luck”.  Or be passive online then complain.

Do it right.  Do it now.  Give me 3 months.  I can change your life.

xo, Andrea

Here are two things to remember:1.  It only takes one.2. I’ve had over 10,000 marriages in my career that I love--- so I know what I’m talking about!