Through the years I have talked with thousands of men about what they are looking for in a first date. A 38-year-old CEO of a Fortune 1000 gave me this list … and I have always kept it! I think he summed up online dating/dating in general:
Does she complain about men? Does she complain in general?
Is she open to trying new things?
Do I like her clothes and sense of style?
Can she speak intelligently about more than one thing (such as her job)?
Is she emotionally available or is she still talking about her ex a lot? (This is particularly important!)
Can she maintain eye contact?
Is she nervous? Is there some energy between us or is it flat? (Nervous is better than flat.)
Is she generous or is she confrontational? Can she hold her own opinion without making me wrong?
Does she have a good sense of humor and a “fun” attitude? Does she get my sense of humor? Is she happy?
Do we have chemistry?
How does she respond when I put my hand on the side of her arm or the small of her back? Is she open and not afraid to show that she likes me?
Is she high maintenance? Does she talk about nicer places than you are taking her to in a way that makes you feel like she would have rather gone there? Does she pick the most expensive thing on the menu for the first date?
Next up: I have a check list of what women are looking for in men as they navigate online dating and all those dating profiles!