You Think Dating Is Hard? Try This.

So every morning, I read The Wall Street Journal and scroll through my 1440 newsletter — because nothing says "good morning" like coffee, headlines and a weirdly perfect dating analogy.

And I came across this headline last week:

A man jumped out of a plane… free-falling through the sky… and solved a Rubik’s Cube in 23 seconds before his parachute deployed.

Excuse me?

and you think dating is hard?

Meanwhile, half the singles I talk to are emotionally exhausted because someone on Bumble used the phrase:

“Just seeing what’s out there.”

Now listen.

I’m not saying dating is easy.

Dating can absolutely feel frustrating, awkward, confusing, vulnerable, disappointing, exhilarating, hopeful, weird, and occasionally like assembling IKEA furniture during a power outage.

But HARD?

Let’s define hard correctly.

Hard is hurling yourself out of an airplane while solving a color-coded mathematical puzzle at 120 miles per hour.

Hard is landing a triple axel.

Hard is diffusing a bomb.

Hard is explaining cryptocurrency.

Dating?

Dating is a skill.

Now we pause for a brief commercial paid for by Andrea McGinty:'

If your current dating strategy consists primarily of:

• deleting apps dramatically,

• re-downloading them two weeks later,

• texting your friends screenshots,

• and saying “all the good ones are gone”…

…it may be time for a different approach.

I’ve spent 35 years helping people date smarter — not harder.

33,000+ first dates.

10,000+ marriages.

And significantly fewer parachutes.

Book your free call at 33000Dates.com and let’s stop treating your love life like random free-fall.   Or even better yet, text me at 702-494-7344 for an appointment.   Let’s go!

And skills improve with strategy, repetition, coaching, adjustments, awareness, timing, and yes… sometimes a complete reboot of your approach.

Which, by the way, is exactly what Skydiving Rubik’s Cube Guy did.

He didn’t just wake up one morning and think:

“You know what? Today feels like a great day to plunge from the heavens while solving a cube designed to destroy human confidence.”

No.

He practiced.

He studied.

He failed.

He adjusted.

Apparently, he even discovered he could solve the cube faster while falling on his BACK instead of his stomach.

Which honestly feels like an accidental dating metaphor.

Because a lot of people are approaching dating from entirely the wrong position.

Wrong apps.

Wrong mindset.

Wrong photos.

Wrong timing.

Wrong expectations.

Wrong strategy.

Then they conclude:

“Dating is impossible.”

No.

You’re just free-falling face-first with no plan.

And look — this is why athletes have coaches

CEOs have advisors.

Actors have acting coaches.

Olympians have trainers.

Even the guy throwing himself out of an aircraft with a Rubik’s Cube had guidance.

But somehow intelligent, successful adults think they should magically figure out modern dating alone after being married 22 years, raising kids, building companies, surviving divorces, caregiving for parents, and living through approximately 14 emotional plot twists.

Of course it feels hard.

You’re trying to solve the cube without learning the patterns.

And here’s another thing nobody wants to admit:

The people who succeed in dating are rarely the “luckiest.”

They’re usually the people willing to become better at it.

Better communicators

Better pickers

Better listeners

Better flirter

Better at spotting red flags

Better at staying optimistic

Better at understanding human behavior

Dating is not algebra.

It’s not magic.

It’s not punishment.

And contrary to popular belief, there IS intelligent life out there.

You may just need a better strategy for finding it.

So the next time you think:

“This is impossible…”

Remember:

Some guy literally solved a Rubik’s Cube while plummeting toward Earth at terminal velocity.

You can probably survive dinner with a financial advisor from Laguna Beach who still uses emojis incorrectly.

If your current dating strategy consists primarily of:

• deleting apps dramatically,

• re-downloading them two weeks later,

• texting your friends screenshots,

• and saying “all the good ones are gone”…

…it may be time for a different approach.

I’ve spent 35 years helping people date smarter — not harder.

33,000+ first dates.

10,000+ marriages.

And significantly fewer parachutes.

Book your free call at 33000Dates.com and let’s stop treating your love life like random free-fall.   Or even better yet, text me at 702-494-7344 for an appointment.   Let’s go!

XXOO,

Andrea McGinty Dating Strategist/Dating Coach/Dating Matchmaker

Featured guest on Oprah, Forbes, Today Show, Wall Street Journal, Harvard Crimson, New Yorker, People Magazine and a guest on over 100 podcasts in last year