Everyone’s talking about AI—and yes, it sparks everything from awe to “um, should I be concerned?” When my clients ask me as a dating coach/dating expert how AI can help their love lives, I say: it’s a tool, not a soulmate. Used right, though, it’s like having a nerdy-but-brilliant best friend who edits your texts and tells you which photo actually makes you look fun.

Here’s how to use AI wisely (and avoid dating like a robot):

1. Don’t let AI write your profile from scratch.

Dumping in keywords like “travel, dogs, golf” gives you a cliché salad. I once saw "golf" used as a metaphor for life ten times in one AI-written bio. My eye twitched.

2. Write it yourself—then polish with AI.

Once you’ve written a profile, feed it to ChatGPT or Claude and say: “Make this fun and witty” or “tone: thoughtful, with a wink.” Use it like an editor, not a ghostwriter.

3. Message help? Use AI, but with caution.

Your original message might be boring. The AI rewrite might sound like it’s auditioning for SNL. The sweet spot is in between.

4. Skip AI photo captions.

No one’s swiping because of “Me, living my best life at brunch.” And, don't let AI "enhance" your photos---I had one client do this and I emailed her back and asked her what cartoon/animated film it was from---not helpful with your online branding.

5. Nervous dater? AI can help.

Ask for first-date topics based on their interests. Not perfect, but a solid icebreaker generator.

6. Choosing profile pics? Try AI.

Sites like HotPot.ai can rate your photos for likability. Sometimes surprisingly accurate.

7. Spotting red flags.

Paste a sketchy profile into AI and ask if it sounds fake. Helpful if you’re unsure—though I still trust my own red flag radar more.  Mine has over 30 years’ experience. 

8. Plan smarter dates.

Need a cute café halfway between West Hollywood and Irvine? AI to the rescue (and bonus points if it suggests parking tips).

9. Outfit advice? Surprisingly fun.

Tell AI your age, the venue, and the vibe. Results are hit-or-miss—but often entertaining and insightful.

10. The best and worst AI tools.

🟢 Use: ChatGPT, Grok

🟡 Meh: Claude (too poetic)

🔴 Avoid: Rizz AI (cringe), Cupid Bot (just… no)

AI can’t fall in love for you—but it can help you show up as your best, most genuine self.

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