I’m Not Anti-Love. I’m Anti-Hype. (Feb 14 Edition)

I don’t buy into Valentine’s Day.

Never have.

Never will.

And not because I’m a grinch.

I love love.

I sell love for a living.

I'm basically the Costco of relationships: big selection, better standards, fewer regrets.

But Valentine’s Day? It’s… kind of icky.

It’s a manmade holiday. (hello Hallmark and planes flying in roses from South America)

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Here’s why I don’t do Feb 14:

1) It’s a pop-up shop for insecurity. It rents space in your head for 24 hours… then charges you in self-doubt.

Don’t renew the lease.

2) It turns romance into a performance review. Did you hit your quota of roses and reservations? ”Sir, this is love, not quarterly earnings".

3) It’s the Olympics of comparison. You’re judging your real life against someone else’s filtered dessert and strategic candlelight. That’s not romance. That’s content.

4) It sells urgency like it’s intimacy. If someone likes you, they don’t need Feb 14 to prove it. They prove it on Feb 3.And Feb 26. And random Tuesdays when you’re tired and annoying.

5) It’s a pressure cooker for singles. Like you’re supposed to feel “less than” because you don’t have dinner plans.

(huh, as I'm writing this I'm thinking, Andrea, is this about you in middle school not getting a carnation from a boy on VD? huh. Trauma on young hearts)

Please. Having no date is not a crisis. Having low standards is.

6) It’s a holiday that tries to rebrand crumbs as cake. A situationship will suddenly “step up” because the calendar told him to? Cute.

No.

7) It’s expensive. And for what.

Prix-fixe menus. Prix-fixe expectations. 

Ugh. And nobody even likes that chocolate assortment box.

(though I wouldn't turn down a box of See’s candy!)

8) It confuses grand gestures with real relationship skills.

Flowers don’t fix poor communication. A teddy bear can’t carry emotional labor. And balloons don’t equal commitment.

What I do believe in:

Consistent effort. Clear intentions.

A grown-up plan. Kindness. Follow-through.

That’s romance.

So if you’re single on Feb 14?

Congratulations—you’re not participating in a marketing event.

Because love isn’t a one-day pop-up.

Love is built.

Quietly. Consistently.

On the days nobody posts.

And that?

Is hot.

xx,

Andrea

(Your Dating Coach)