Dating Over 40, 50, 60+: Companionship, True Love… or Marriage?

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By Andrea McGinty

Founder, Dating Coach, and Veteran of Life’s Love Stories

So what are singles over 60 really looking for in their “Second Acts”?

After a long marriage, a painful breakup, or the loss of a beloved partner, it’s natural to wonder: Do I want love again? Am I open to dating? What does this chapter even look like?

Spoiler alert: It’s not one-size-fits-all—and that’s the beauty of it.

I've Been There Too

As a dating coach and matchmaker since the 1990s, I’ve helped thousands of people navigate love in every decade of life. And I’ve walked the walk myself:

✅ Dumped at the altar in my 20s (true story).

✅ Married for 24 years

✅ Divorced and swore I’d never date again.

✅ Recently married (again!) in my 60s—to an amazing man I never saw coming.

I thought I was “good.” Great friends. Family. Community. What more did I need?

Apparently, a lot more. A travel buddy. Romance. Emotional connection. And a reminder that I’m not done living—or loving.

What Do Most People Over 60 Want?

When new clients come to me, their desires usually fall into one of three camps:

• One-third are seeking companionship

• One-third are craving true love—without the rings

• One-third are open to marriage (even if they swore they’d never do it again)

Here’s the best part:You don’t have to make a decision today. You just have to start—maybe with a date, a laugh, or even a walk through the farmers market.

Let’s break down your options:

1. Companionship

Not everyone’s looking for fireworks—and that’s okay.

Plenty of singles over 60 are simply seeking a solid friendship:

Someone to go to brunch with. Travel with. See theater, share stories, or stroll the neighborhood.

There’s no pressure. No rush. Just connection. And if it evolves into more? Great. If not? You still have a friend.

2. True Love (No Legal Strings Attached)

This is one of the most popular relationship styles I see now—especially with singles 60+.

It’s romantic. It’s exclusive. It’s deeply intimate.

But there’s no marriage license involved.

Some couples live together. Others maintain their independence and visit often. There’s usually a strong emotional and physical bond—but with freedom and clarity about finances, estate planning, or family dynamics.

This type of relationship offers the best of both worlds: deep love, without the logistical complications.

3. Marriage

Yes, it still happens. Often.

My bulletin board is full of wedding invites and smiling faces of clients who swore they’d never marry again. Yet here they are, finding that “forever” connection in their 40s to 70s.

Why? Because for many, marriage at this stage feels more intentional. It’s based on values, partnership, and shared vision—not pressure or tradition.

And it’s never too late for a beautiful “I do.”

So... What’s Right for You?

Here’s the truth: You don’t need to know your destination before you begin. You just need to be open to the journey.

Whether you want a movie buddy, a hand to hold, or a second wedding with a sunset backdrop—you get to decide what your Second Act looks like.

Because love? It doesn’t expire.

It evolves—with you.

Ready to explore your next chapter?

Let’s talk. I’ve been helping people like you find love for over 30 years—and I’d be honored to help you, too.

Love, Andrea