As a bit of a dating survey junkie, I have asked this question of thousands of women over the past 20 years. And chivalry is not dead. Good manners (holding the door open, helping with her coat) are still attractive to a woman. Lots of eye contact, attentiveness and being a good listener are traits women appreciate.
Here is a list we gathered from a number of women that may give you some insight:
Does he carry himself with confidence?
Do his interests/personality match up with what you read on his online dating profile? Like does he really scuba dive?
Did he complain about every aspect of his life?
Does he appear trustworthy, dependable and honest?
Do we have good chemistry? Am I attracted to him?
Do I like his sense of humor? Does he have one?
Did we have fun together?
Was he complimentary? Did he say something positive about the way I look? (is there lots of compliments?) RED FLAG!
Did he only have eyes for me? Or was he interested in other women in the room?
Is he a good communicator? Did he listen and appear to be interested in what I had to say?
Did he talk too much?
Is he well-groomed with good hygiene? Clothes clean and pressed?
Is he interesting? Did we engage easily in Conversation or was it a struggle? Did he only talk about himself?
Was he intelligent?
Does he seem interested in life?
Is he the type of man who makes things happen?
Does he have good manners?
Was he positive about his exes?
Is he polite to others?
Andrea McGinty, named America’s Dating Expert by the media (CNN, Oprah, People Magazine, Wall Street Journal and more) is the founder of 33000Dates.com and loves her clients! She helps woman in their 30-50s+ navigate the online dating sites by writing professional dating profiles, empowerment and dating coaching and especially has fun vetting your online photos!! Andrea also helps choose the right dating sites based on your interests, values, personality and geographic area.