Updated: Oct 13, 2020
Now isn’t that an odd question. Seriously though, think about it! This is such an important point with online dating, or honestly, dating in general.
Have you ever known men or women who aren’t necessarily the most handsome or stunningly gorgeous individuals, but they never lack dates? What exactly makes them so attractive?
You probably know where I’m headed: self-confidence!!
As well as being emotionally attractive, it screams sex appeal. These daters are glowing with a bright, fun attitude, and they have a genuine interest in others. They’re happy with who they are and appreciate what they have to offer. This positive energy attracts an abundance of people who want to meet them, get to know them, and be around them!
Backtracking a bit here …This is the point where negative energy disrupts. “That’s not true!”, “It’s not me, it’s my age!”, “All the great men are taken.”. “No, you just don’t get it… it’s so hard to date in (wherever you live)”. That type of thinking is the type that will drive men AWAY rather than TOWARDS you. Cliché as it may seem, confidence really is key!
Back to……Self-confidence produces the most amazing results. Here’s why:
It allows you to relax and have fun.
It means you take rejection lightly and not personally.
It makes it clear you are not desperate.
It means your content with yourself----which only makes you more attractive.
To gain self-confidence, you must first learn to love yourself. It’s important that you recognize and appreciate what’s great about you but also accept what’s not so great. If you don’t love and accept who you are, how can you expect someone else to do so? Always remember: "To look good, you have to feel and know you’re good!"
Coming up next – 6 boosters to improve your sex appeal!
Andrea McGinty is the Founder of 33000 Thousand Dates. The name came from her success setting up over 33000 dates over the past 20 years. She loves her clients, writing online dating profiles, vetting photos and mostly talking to clients as a digital dating empowerment coach!