Newsflash: You're probably not bad at online dating. You're just using a strategy that stopped working three apps ago. If you're ready to spend less time swiping and more time actually meeting great people, these seven tips are your new playbook.

1. Stop trying to be everyone's type. Be someone's favorite.

The more you try to appeal to everyone, the more forgettable you become. Your quirks aren't flaws—they're your built-in filtering system. The right person isn't looking for perfect. They're looking for you.

2. Your profile isn't your résumé. It's the movie trailer.

Nobody's swiping because you can "multitask under pressure." Give them a glimpse of your personality, your humor, and your life. Leave them wanting the sequel.

3. Sending 100 "Hey"s isn't a strategy. It's spam with Wi-Fi.

A thoughtful message beats a copy-and-paste opener every time. Read their profile, say something specific, and prove you're a human—not an algorithm.

Guys, I love you, but we need to have a little intervention. "Hey," "Hi," and "Hey, beautiful" are the vanilla ice cream of online dating—safe, predictable, and nobody gets excited about it. If you want a woman to actually reply, read her profile, make her smile, and give her a reason to think, "Finally...someone who didn't send the same message to half the internet." Hip Hip Hurray!

4. The goal isn't more matches. It's better dates.

Collecting matches is like collecting gym memberships—you don't get results just because you signed up. One great conversation is worth fifty dead-end chats.

5. If you're exhausted by the apps, change your strategy before you change your optimism.

Burnout doesn't mean dating isn't working. It usually means your approach needs a tune-up. Small tweaks often create big results.

6. Stop chasing butterflies. Chase consistency.

Chemistry is exciting—but consistency is what actually gets you a second date. The butterflies eventually settle anyway. Character sticks around.

7. Get off the app before it becomes your full-time job.

At some point, you have to stop perfecting your profile and start meeting people. You can't find your person if you're endlessly shopping for the next profile. Close the app. Open your calendar.

Stop waiting for the algorithm to change your love life—it won't. A few smart shifts can change everything, and your next great date might be one swipe, one message, or one decision away. Ready to date smarter instead of harder? Let's make it happen.

Text me at 702-494-7344 to set up a complimentary discovery call to see if I can help.  Or go to 33000Dates.com and book on my calendar!

XX,

Andrea McGinty

Also known as the “Mel Robbins of Modern Dating” or as Oprah called me when I was a guest on her show “America’s #1 Dating Strategist”