Dating Scorecard + Red Flags + Free Book...what?

The 2nd Act Dating Scorecard (below)

Because we’re not freelancing our love life anymore.

Hey, what a way to start a Monday, right?  Did I mention free book? See bottom, after quiz!

How to use it: Rate each line 0–50 = Nope • 1–2 = Sometimes • 3 = Mostly • 4 = Consistently • 5 = My standard (welcome to the penthouse)

Total possible: 60

A) Clarity & Standards (0–15)

1. I’m crystal clear on what I want (relationship style, lifestyle, location, values). 0 1 2 3 4 5

2. I know my non-negotiables vs. preferences (and I stop negotiating with myself at 11:47pm). 0 1 2 3 4 5

3. I’ve done a pattern audit (a.k.a. “How I accidentally dated the same person in different packaging”). 0 1 2 3 4 5

B) Screening & Strategy (0–15)

4. I screen early and kindly instead of running a “hope-based relationship startup.” 0 1 2 3 4 5

5. I run a smart funnel (apps + real life + intros… I’m not relying on fate and a chardonnay). 0 1 2 3 4 5

6. I pace intimacy + exclusivity based on behavior, not butterflies and a good playlist. 0 1 2 3 4 5

C) Communication & Behavior (0–15)

7. I communicate like an adult (direct, warm, no cryptic texting riddles). 0 1 2 3 4 5

8. I watch consistency, not charisma (sparkle is cute; follow-through is hot). 0 1 2 3 4 5

9. I handle rejection with grace (no spiral, no revenge dating, no “fine I’ll marry my Peloton”). 0 1 2 3 4 5

D) Boundaries & Emotional Intelligence (0–15)

10. I protect my peace (time, energy, body, money, sleep). 0 1 2 3 4 5

11. I don’t confuse chemistry with compatibility (I can feel fireworks and still walk away). 0 1 2 3 4 5

12. I choose reality over potential (no fixer projects, no emotional science fairs). 0 1 2 3 4 5

Total Score: ____ / 60

Your Score = Your Dating Operating System

50–60: “Penthouse Energy”You’re strategic, selective, and calm. You don’t chase. You choose.

35–49: “Momentum Builder”You’re close. Tighten screening and stop letting “maybe” rent space in your head.

20–34: “Reboot Zone”You’re leaking energy. Upgrade standards, improve your funnel, and slow the pace.

0–19: “Detox + Reset”Your love life needs a firm rebrand. Pause, audit patterns, and rebuild.

Hey, what a way to start a Monday, right?  Did I mention free book?  Yep, first 10 responses to my email will get a copy of my bestselling book shipped directly from Amazon this week.  Yep, FREE.

 Why?

1.  I want to make your Monday special!

2. I’m celebrating the NCAA Football Championship Game tonight early!

3.  I really, really want you to find your “person”!

4.  I like happy people.

What you need to do:

1.      Get your score above

2.     Email the score to me at 33kdates@gmail.com

3.     Subject Line of email:  FREE BOOK:  Dating Score    (it must be this exactly)

4.     The email to me must include:

A. Your name & address   (no, Amazon won’t take PO Boxes)*

B. Your score

C. Your age

Easy right?  BTW, I never ever sell or share my email list of names! (though I do get asked a lot…lol)    *I can only ship in US.

Ok, I don’t care what your score is----why?  I just want you thinking …because time is precious.   Sometimes I get a call from a person I spoke to 2 years ago and they tell me “Andrea, I’m finally ready”.

Of course, I don’t say this…..BUT, 2 years is a long time to wait.  Just saying.  Once more “Time is precious”.

XXOO,

Andrea