The longest Day of the Year. Same Dating Excuses?

Today is the Summer Solstice (and my sister Joanne's birthday---Happy B-day Jo!)---the longest day of the year.

Thus sun is literally giving us extra daylight. The sun is doing it's part today. The rest is on you.

You could spend it reorganizing your closet, scrolling online, watching strangers renovate kitchens on HGTV and telling your friends there are "no good men/women left"/

OR....

You can use a few of those bonus hours to put yourself where other humans are...and win a prize! See bottom!

Radical, I know.

1. Go Somewhere Without Your Emotional Support Water Bottle

You'll survive.

2. Sit At The Bar Like You Mean It

Not hunched over your phone looking like you're waiting for jury duty.

3. Stop Looking For The Spark

Half of you couldn't identify a healthy relationship if it handed you mozzarella sticks.

4. Talk To Someone Attractive Before You're "Ready"

Spoiler: You will never feel ready.

5. Visit Home Depot

The unofficial singles app for grown-ups.

6. Make Eye Contact Longer Than A Blink

Not serial-killer long.

Human long.

7. Leave The House Looking Like You Might Run Into Your Ex

Personal growth is expensive. Use it.

8. Say Hello First

Yes, even if you have a graduate degree.

9. Stop Waiting To Lose 15 Pounds

Your future spouse is unlikely to demand a weigh-in.

10. Go To The Event You Already Decided You Won't Enjoy

You know...The place where all the people are.

11. Retire The Phrase "There Are No Good Men Left"

There are. They're saying the same thing about women.

12. Ask One More Question

The difference between chemistry and boredom is often curiosity.

13. Spend One Entire Hour Without Complaining About Dating

Olympic-level challenge.

14. Flirt Like The Wi-Fi Is Down

Use words. Actual words.

15. Stop Treating Every Date Like A Supreme Court Confirmation Hearing

Nobody needs cross-examination.

16. Smile At Someone Attractive

Not your Amazon driver.

An actual prospect.

17. Go To A Bourbon Tasting

If nothing else, you'll get a story.

18. Attend Something Where Nobody Knows You

Your soulmate probably isn't trapped inside your existing friend group.

19. Say Yes To The Invitation

Even if Netflix has been whispering sweet nothings in your ear.

20. Stay Out Past 8 PM

It's summer. Act accordingly.

21. Stop Waiting For A Sign

This is the sign.

The universe outsourced it to me.

Closing

After 33,000 first dates, here's what I've learned:

The people who eventually find love aren't necessarily prettier, younger, richer, thinner, or luckier.

They're just the ones who eventually got off the damn couch.

Reply with the number you're willing to try.

If your answer is "none," congratulations.

You've perfectly identified the problem.

If it's more than 1, email me back with the word SUMMER SOLSTICE in the subject line and you may be one of 5 winners that get my book shipped to you tomorrow by Amazon Prime! yep, how fun.

XX, Andrea